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Creating a Balanced Partnership

Challenge:
Most of us have not been taught how to create balanced partnerships. A balanced partnership is a relationship in which both people are equally committed to owning their part in deepening intimacy by taking responsibility for the history they bring. The opposite of this is a power struggle, in which one or both partners hides their vulnerability to protect themselves from the shame of exposure and feelings of inadequacy.

Remedy:
A balanced partnership requires a willingness to learn from our partner, no matter how evolved we are. It is created through the integration of the inner female, inner male, and inner child - parts of our psyche that make up our inner family. These parts exist in both men and women and contribute to how we function in relationships. When they are out of balance, power struggles occur.

In a balanced inner family, the inner female receives intuitive wisdom that guides the inner male’s actions so they are not driven solely by ego or rational thought. The inner male brings a sense of protection and takes actions on the material plane that reflect the divine guidance the female has received. Both the inner male and female care for and nurture the inner child, who brings playfulness, openness, and creativity.

Affirmation:
"I create balanced partnerships through the complete integration of my inner family. I allow myself to learn from my partner and acknowledge parts of myself that need healing."

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