When introducing
yourself online, say hello courteously. "Hi sexy" or other presumptuous
greetings are inappropriate when making
the first connection.
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Never pressure
a woman for her phone number. If you
would like to offer yours, that's fine.
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Ask your
date whether she would like you to pick
her up or meet her at a convenient location.
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Make a plan.
Women love it when a man proposes creative
ideas for the date. Don't show up with
no clue about what you are going to
do. If you're on a budget, don't ask
your date to choose the restaurant or
activity. Otherwise, you could be setting
yourself up for an embarrassing situation.
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Never brag
or complain about how busy your schedule
is when setting up a date. You'll send
a message that you don't have time for
her, and that's a turn-off.
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Always call
to confirm the day before. Don't assume
the date is on unless you have established
a definitive meeting place and a time.
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Be punctual.
Never keep a woman waiting. If you're
running late due to unforseen circumstances,
call your date immediately and let her
know.
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If you get
to the restaurant before your date,
announce yourself to the host or hostess
and let them know you are meeting someone.
When your date arrives, she will be
properly informed that you are expecting
her.
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Be attentive
to your date. Make eye contact (without
staring) and look alert. Acting tired
or spaced out is a turn off. Sit with
good posture, but don't be stiff. Show
interest with your body language.
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If you bring
flowers, make sure they are fresh, not
dehydrated or wilted. If you are traveling
to meet your date, ask the florist to
put your bouquet in water tubes. Give
flowers frequently, even if you think
they're superfluous.
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Insure that
your date feels comfortable at all times
and be solicitous about her well-being.
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Show interest
in her and do not talk incessantly about
yourself. That is a huge turn-off to
women. Also, do not talk excessively
about your mother (no more than once).
If you do, your date will think you
need one, and that's not sexy.
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Pick up the tab on at least the first few dates. Generosity makes you more attractive. If your date offers to pay, thank her and tell her you would gladly accept sometime in the future.
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Pay the bill
quickly, and don't labor over it unless
there's a mistake. Do not discuss the
bill or show it to your date. And by
all means, don't ask her how much of
a tip you should leave! Have knowledge
of tipping etiquette in the city or
town where you are dining.
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Make sure
your date gets home safely; ideally,
bring her to her door. Do not insist
on coming into her home. Let her invite
you when she is ready.
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If you're
on a timetable and have to catch a bus,
train, etc., tell your date in advance.
Be mindful of the time and don't end
the date abruptly. Make sure you leave
sufficient time to see her to her destination
safely.
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Call your
date within 24 hours if you want to
see her again, especially if you have
been intimate with her. Ideally, make
plans at the end of the date.
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If you promise
to call, make sure you do and don't
keep the person hanging. Do not use
email as your primary form of contact;
it is impersonal and not romantic.
